Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Humans make mistakes. Even good ones.
Shock & Sadness are my immediate reactions. There was brief hope this was a hoax. She is human. Regardless of what happens going forward, at one time these two had a very special relationship which appeared above the normal trappings of Hollywood. We will probably never know what changed. Not saying they are over. I hope they aren't. I will always be a fan. I still think she is very unique. However, this incident does take her off the pedestal of being completely different from the rest of Hollywood. She can learn and grow from this "common" mistake. Guys can easily fall in love with her, IMO. Why she was vulnerable to this bloke i'll never understand. His age isn't the issue but his wife & kids are. I remember from Swath promo that Kristen indicated her life was too easy. That she almost looked forward to something bad to happen to bring some conflict into that perfect life. I do feel bad for Rob and that director's wife. But I have no hate for anyone. I've been through this from Rob's perspective & I wanted to salvage it. But the woman I was with doesn't have near the integrity that Kristen still has (though her integrity is weakened, the heartfelt admission did show some character, IMO). If Rob and Kristen are too be salvaged, it will take sacrifices from them both on their careers. It would take time to rebuild trust. And being miles apart is not good if rebuilding trust is the priority. Its probably unrealistic for them to cancel their projects and work on fixing what was broken. Maybe they take a break and come back to each other after awhile. I don't know. Even if they split they will still love each other. There are old quotes from Rob along these lines. There is no point in pretending the same relationship can exist. Maybe something new can start, if the love is still genuine, but its up to them. Robert Ebert's tweet was about the only "comforting" item I saw. He pointed out an article about Kristen's apology in the Atlantic, http://t.co/OdY5X0Q3, and stated it makes him respect her more. Damage control protocol surely would have called for something other than an immediate, heartfelt apology. She seemed to be grieving the trust she violated. She broke his heart and her own. Time will tell, but as of now I think Rob might get past this and choose not to give up on her. I don't want to raise false hopes, but if you consider this happens to couples and they survive it. Kristen didn't get to live four years in the relative obscurity of college to make mistakes. Movie sets were her college and what his name the older professor. What she did is done by 22 year olds with boyfriends. Her offense is a considerable one. But should her fame make her offense so much worse than the people who can get away with this? Clique of the moment (its fits): Time heals all wounds.