Sunday, July 29, 2012

Mistakes don't erase everything

I've made several attempts on this blog to "not discuss her personal life" because I felt the guilt long ago.  Knowing that they didn't want to be tabloid fodder I didn't want to "feed the beast." For this reason, and the fact that my interest in English football had really grown into a passion, this blog was on its dying embers.  I was ok with this, because there is only so many ways for me to say how awesome Kristen is.   Plus, the news was always good.   Talented bloggers, like KJ, could spread the right message.  There was not much for me to contribute, IMO I felt like my interest in Kristen was in this department over there, and they are doing great over there, so I'll move on to other interests.  Now the Kristen department is full of sadness and I feel it right along with many of you.   How many scandals like this have you seen over the years without giving it a second thought? Kristen, and by extension Robert, were the first celebs many of us had EVER cared about. Before Tuesday, the time I spent reading about Kristen  had gone down to 15-30 minutes a week.   My mind was on the upcoming Barclay's Premiere League and all the transfer news.   I glanced at the positive Kristen news and moved on.  The past couple of days, @poptrashmoviee has expressed a very valid point that all the good news was due to her being pushed to max to become "the highest paid actress in Hollywood".   More down time was probably needed and might have prevented his.   There is also opinion out there that the facts don't add up.  It doesn't despite the pictures.  If everything that meets the eye is true, then I feel it was all about self-destruction.  This is a psyche issue that can be healed. I have a desire to know those involved are progressing into healing.  I know this will take time.     I wish i could forget about all of this.   Its best to ignore as much media on this as possible.   So little out there is reliable.   What Kristen least wanted to happen is happening.  The money being made on her private life is at an all time high.   Kristen is still a very good person. This mistake doesn't undo all thats good about her.  I think Rob knows this, too.  She is still the one I wouldn't want to get away.   But maybe she needs to be alone to work on herself.   I am not qualified to say what's best.  Her comments, during SWATH promo, about her life being boring and wishing for some conflict,  haunt me.   Therapy is needed, with or without Rob. Me saying that isn't exactly "minding my own business."  Sorry.   That guilt will probably stop me from doing more blogging on this. Like many of you, I  want everyone involved to stop hurting.   I  care about that girl.  And him.  This is true despite the fact I don't know them. Please don't take this next comment seriously, because its NOT.  Its intended to make me (and maybe you) smile.  Rob has a movie coming up where he goes to Iraq, right?  Kristen should cancel Cali, go with him and wear a burka (;

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Humans make mistakes. Even good ones.

Shock & Sadness are my immediate reactions.   There was brief hope this was a hoax.      She is human.  Regardless of what happens going forward, at one time these two had a very special relationship which appeared above the normal trappings of Hollywood.    We will probably never know what changed.  Not saying they are over.   I hope they aren't. I will always be a fan.   I still think she is very unique.  However, this incident does take her off the pedestal of being completely different from the rest of Hollywood.   She can learn and grow from this "common" mistake. Guys can easily fall in love with her, IMO.   Why she was vulnerable to this bloke i'll never understand.   His age isn't the issue but his wife & kids are.  I remember from Swath promo that Kristen indicated her life was too easy.  That she almost looked forward to something bad to happen to bring some conflict into that perfect life. I do feel bad for Rob and that director's wife.  But I have no hate for anyone. I've been through this from Rob's perspective & I wanted to salvage it.  But the woman I was with doesn't have near the integrity that Kristen still has (though her integrity is weakened, the heartfelt admission did show some character, IMO). If Rob and Kristen are too be salvaged, it will take sacrifices from them both on their careers.   It would take time to rebuild trust.   And being miles apart is not good if rebuilding trust is the priority.   Its probably unrealistic for them to cancel their projects and work on fixing what was broken.  Maybe they take a break and come back to each other after awhile.  I don't know.  Even if they split they will still love each other.  There are old quotes from Rob along these lines. There is no point in pretending the same relationship can exist.  Maybe something new can start, if the love is still genuine, but its up to them. Robert Ebert's tweet was about the only "comforting" item I saw.   He pointed out an article about Kristen's apology in the Atlantic,, and stated it makes him respect her more.  Damage control protocol surely would have called for something other than an immediate, heartfelt apology.  She seemed to be grieving the trust she violated. She broke his heart and her own.   Time will tell, but as of now I think Rob might get past this and choose not to give up on her.  I don't want to raise false hopes, but if you consider this happens to couples and they survive it.   Kristen didn't get to live four years in the relative obscurity of college to make mistakes.  Movie sets were her college and what his name the older professor.    What she did is done by 22 year olds with boyfriends.   Her offense is a considerable one.   But should her fame make her offense so much worse than the people who can get away with this? Clique of the moment (its fits): Time heals all wounds.