Humans make mistakes. Even good ones.

Shock & Sadness are my immediate reactions.   There was brief hope this was a hoax.      She is human.  Regardless of what happens going forward, at one time these two had a very special relationship which appeared above the normal trappings of Hollywood.    We will probably never know what changed.  Not saying they are over.   I hope they aren't. I will always be a fan.   I still think she is very unique.  However, this incident does take her off the pedestal of being completely different from the rest of Hollywood.   She can learn and grow from this "common" mistake. Guys can easily fall in love with her, IMO.   Why she was vulnerable to this bloke i'll never understand.   His age isn't the issue but his wife & kids are.  I remember from Swath promo that Kristen indicated her life was too easy.  That she almost looked forward to something bad to happen to bring some conflict into that perfect life. I do feel bad for Rob and that director's wife.  But I have no hate for anyone. I've been through this from Rob's perspective & I wanted to salvage it.  But the woman I was with doesn't have near the integrity that Kristen still has (though her integrity is weakened, the heartfelt admission did show some character, IMO). If Rob and Kristen are too be salvaged, it will take sacrifices from them both on their careers.   It would take time to rebuild trust.   And being miles apart is not good if rebuilding trust is the priority.   Its probably unrealistic for them to cancel their projects and work on fixing what was broken.  Maybe they take a break and come back to each other after awhile.  I don't know.  Even if they split they will still love each other.  There are old quotes from Rob along these lines. There is no point in pretending the same relationship can exist.  Maybe something new can start, if the love is still genuine, but its up to them. Robert Ebert's tweet was about the only "comforting" item I saw.   He pointed out an article about Kristen's apology in the Atlantic, http://t.co/OdY5X0Q3, and stated it makes him respect her more.  Damage control protocol surely would have called for something other than an immediate, heartfelt apology.  She seemed to be grieving the trust she violated. She broke his heart and her own.   Time will tell, but as of now I think Rob might get past this and choose not to give up on her.  I don't want to raise false hopes, but if you consider this happens to couples and they survive it.   Kristen didn't get to live four years in the relative obscurity of college to make mistakes.  Movie sets were her college and what his name the older professor.    What she did is done by 22 year olds with boyfriends.   Her offense is a considerable one.   But should her fame make her offense so much worse than the people who can get away with this? Clique of the moment (its fits): Time heals all wounds.

Jumping off buildings for Kristen

I've started to blog and then blogger would flake on me and I wouldn't have the patience to start over.   There is positive news about Kristen all the time now.  Be it more photo-shoots, co- workers gushing on her, having fun and not caring, and a new project. This continues to be a year where the girl is somewhat of this unstoppable force that can do whatever she wants.  But I think Kristen is still humble enough not to see it as having power, but rather the privilege of doing what she wants. Whenever I go though Twitter, some of you always have this positive news that I've come to take for granted at times. That video of Charlize gushing about Kristen: “I really, I really, really love that girl. I love that girl, like, I would jump off a building for that girl" This was really cool.  I know I say I don't pay attention to celebs but i knew right away this would be a good working pair.  Charlize is a beautiful woman.  Yet when she was closer to Kristen's age, she takes a role in which she was deliberately physically unattractive in "Monster" and got an Oscar for it.  Because of that, I knew the two of them would have similar passions about the job.    It's similar to how Kristen cut off the beautiful hair to play Joan Jett & had bad skin (on purpose) in Welcome To the Riley's. The way Charlize feels about Kristen is further confirmation for me of what  an extraordinary person Kristen is.  Those that are fortunate to be friends with Kristen will protect her & love her because they can see how rare she is. To know her in any capacity, even as an employee, would be the biggest privilege.  The challenge would be not to let her see how highly you regard her so she felt normal around you.  I bet this is a challenge for some of her friends. BTW: I just read about Cali.  I think this is the project she has been longing for. Many great Kristen events will continue in 2012.  As always, I'll enjoy it all. PS: I'd love to know what Kristen thinks about Arsenal FC.  Is it something she just tolerates because it's on her TV early on weekend mornings, or does she like it?

Quick update

Just a quick update.  And I am not even going to tweet this because this won't be much of a blog post.

All three movies that Kristen has coming out are ones that I am pretty excited about.  All three trailers look good.

For OTR, I haven't read that book, but I feel like I should and will make an effort to do so before the film comes out. That director is pretty unique.  The MotorCycle Diaries was a really good film.  I usually don't care for subtitled movies, but that one was really good.  This is going to be a really good art movie and I think the lovers of that book will be happy with it. I also think Kristen will pick up a new group of admirers from a completely different demographic.

Then Snow White and the Huntsman.  When you first heard she was going to be in a Snow White movie, did any of you know how cool of a movie it was going to be?  I know I didn' think so.  But I trusted then that she wouldn't be in some cheesy kids movie.  The more I learn of this movie, the more I think it was the perfect transition for Kristen.  This is a first time director but he obviously has a talent with visual appeal.

Even the Breaking Dawn II teaser trailer looks good.  I've looked forward to Vamp Kristen for a long time now.   One more round of Twilight publicity.

I see nothing has changed in the whole "topic" of Kristen and her personal life.  I try to ignore this topic and to be honest, its one of the main reason's I don't blog much here anymore.  I do not deny that I still get a big smile on when I learn of them vacationing and spending private time together.  They do as much
as possible to avoid "selling it" and that is just further confirmation that its too important to them.  I like how they won't do what so many want them to do: pose
together in public for that pap shot.  What they have is rare in this twisted world we live in.  I think they are handling it just right.

I would like to know what Rob think's about Arsenal FC's amazing come back this year.  I have become a big fan of that football/soccer club and I wonder how much Kristen is in to it.  Maybe Rob will leave a comment here.  LOL.

I am still Enamored with Kristen

As I knew it would be, 2012 is starting out to be a huge year for Kristen.  So many good things are happening for her.  I don't know how the life of such a famous person is supposed to evolve, but it seems to be going well.   Three big movies, with awards a strong possibility on one of them.   I have learned that the fragrance endorsement is a big deal.  If you have read this blog, you know that I have never really followed a celebrity before.   She is the only one that's ever compelled me to say, "I am a huge fan." Her reluctance to fame, the awkwardness, the not really seeming like she belongs in that world, despite her effortless beauty and magical rare talent -- these were things that drew me to Kristen.   She has gotten more comfortable with the fame, yet she still maintains an integrity that few in Hollywood posses.

The absence of updates here may lead some to think I don't care anymore.  I don't blame anyone for drawing that conclusion.   I do care.  But the reason I started this blog was to make sense of the spell she had suddenly put me under a couple of years ago.  It's no longer a sense of "why do I care about this girl and all that surrounds her.  Why I am into this topic whose followers are 99% female." I have accepted that my interest in her is a bit unusual.   I also used to really get angry with those that criticized Kristen.  That doesn't happen anymore and other people are doing a fine job of defending her honor when needed.  I've developed other topics that interest me greatly.  These are interest more in line with what you would expect a guy like me to be into.    Honestly, isn't the fact that I am a guy what made most of you read this blog?   

I had also gotten caught up in what was happening with her and Robert.  She was never going to be my girlfriend so its nice to see her with such a seemingly good guy.   Interest in that topic always led to guilty feelings because we know how she feels about that topic being discussed.   It's that desire for the real life story to not be the story that made it so real and appealing.   That topic will affect anyone with a pulse if they sit down and look at the pictures that tell the story behind the story.   I know she hates this discussion so I'll limit it one paragraph.   The good news is that story will continue even as interest in it wanes down.  I hope so much for their sake that the interest does die out.  But, there is a definite feeling of permanence there.   This last promotion tour and the interviews in which she discussed the parallels in her life -- it's almost like Twilight was her high school and that wedding was hers.   I am certainly not the only one that got that impression after hearing her discuss it.  But the key was the promotion allowed them to dangle around the edges of reality without ever coming out and saying it.   I don't think about this topic anymore but I also don't think it's going to change and thats pretty cool.   Ok paragraph over.  I'll feel guilty for a day for writing it.

My newest interest has given me something in common with Rob.  And it wasn't planned at all.  I became an Arsenal FC fan over the past year.   Then I learned a couple months ago, thanks to readers of this blog, that Rob is a life long Arsenal supporter.   Fox Soccer has made the English Premiere League one the most
 growing sports watched in the USA.   Its even being broadcast live on the big Fox network these days.   I am sure Rob is glad that he doesn't have to miss a single Arsenal match.  I would love to see the two of them at at a game.   I hope a reporter asks Kristen if she is an Arsenal fan.   I am sure she sees it on her TV often enough.

So I am still a huge Kristen fan, it just wasn't sustainable for me to keep blogging about it.  This isn't my last entry, but the updates will be sporadic.   I look forward to that day, which will come, when Kristen thanks the Academy.  It will be even better if she drops the little statue.

What stood out for me in Breaking Dawn, part I

I have been wondering if this blog even exist anymore.  I have let it slide for so long now.  I don't follow daily events anymore.  A couple of times each week, I try to absorb everything.  Recently there has been allot going on and I have probably missed a few things.  I think I saw most of the magazine pictures of Kristen.  Those are always a treat.  She is good at doing this, especially since she pretends to be playing out a scene when doing them.  Anytime Kristen wants to pretend to be a naughty girl, I am all in.

Snow White will be a huge hit next summer.  I have never watched a trailer so many times.  Kristen can be in any movie she wants to be in. She is that good.
I was annoyed at the extreme reactions on Twitter about Kristen possibly being in Akira.  I knew nothing of the story until I saw these strong reactions.
I now know why so many of you don't want her to be in it.   Some of the reasons are valid points.  Others are not.  If she decides to do it, then I trust her judgement that it's exactly what she should do.   She doesn't take these decisions lightly or without sufficient information.

I saw Breaking Dawn Part I last night.  She was good, her best performance by far in the series  I expected this because i knew Bill Condon would give her the freedom to excel.   What I didn't expect is what I saw from Rob.  I have never been critical of his acting, but I haven't exactly praised him, either.   He was exceptional in this movie.   

The way that Edward begged for Bella's life at the end was the most powerful acting I have seen from Robert Pattinson. It affected me in the theater. 
He was very good, but I doubt he will get the credit he deserves because this is a Twilight movie.   Last night I read the Bill Condon interview (thanks @yashi0487) in which he said "It was like he was hooking into what it would feel like to lose Kristen."

My brother liked this movie.  He is just a normal guy taking his wife and kids to the movie. The honeymoon was a tad bit uncomfortable for him with my 12 year old niece present.  He looks forward to the finish but doesn't see the sense in making us wait that long.  I agree with him.

This increased openness (between R/K) was probably unavoidable with this movie.
After Kristen's accidental confession, I feel I was correct with my speculation last December that she wishes the debate "are they, aren't they" would just end because their actions had been enough and she was annoyed that some people didn't get it and wanted a verbal confirmation despite what they had allowed to slip.  "Come on, people, it's so obvious" she told British GQ.

With the promotion for this movie, they have made its even more obvious, but they still want people to focus on the work.   When your work has many scenes that hit so close to home, how can you not let out a little bit?

Kristen said she understands the interest in her personal life.  Still, something real, her life and his life, shouldn't be used for profit.  It will be, but don't expect those two to contribute any sound bites to that topic.   I think they do not mind being referred to as a couple.  Many people have outed them.  People close to the situation, like directors.  Kristen or Rob have not rebuffed any of these people for doing this.  If it had bothered them, a message to STFU would have been sent, but this hasn't happened.

This movie and its promotion does allot of blurring of fiction and reality.  Maybe ten years from now, they might tell us what it was like to fall in love during this process.  But not now.

My take on the GQ interview

A new chapter is starting in Kristen's life.  This interview & photo spread is a marker in several ways.  I say this not because she let her guard down (more about that in a minute.) This interview was geared towards an audience who hasn't been too concerned with her career up to this point.   Her appearance in GQ can be viewed as when Kristen entered into the collective psyche of men fascinated by beautiful women.   This a bit of an exaggeration, but the event is significant.   She has steadily been gaining more admirers and this appearance is an acknowledgement that she is here now and aren't we glad to get a look at her.

I have always been an anomaly in that she got my attention 18 months ago.  She captured my attention in Twilight, but as with many other guys (including Rob), she sealed herself into my consciousness with her performance in "Into the Wild."   

Before I go into my analysis of the interview and the inevitable reactions, I want to comment on the pictures.  Never worked out before, huh? Until now.  She looks ripped.  Look at her arms.  Clearly Kristen has been getting lots of protein, sleep, and exercise.  She says it gives her more energy too.  Even if she doesn't keep this up, Kristen will continue to look amazing.  But she has added a new dimension to her visual appeal.

A small part of me is concerned that she regrets this little slip.  But I also think she knew this would happen eventually and she acknowledged that the effort in hiding was bothering her a bit.

I thought the interviewer did a good job.  He appears to have connected with her and seems to get what is and isn't important to Kristen.  He also seems to understand that she is a rare bird that some inflexible observers can't understand because she does not fit into the box labeled "21 year old female movie star."   Understandably he wasn't aware (in advance) the level of interest there would be in what he prompted her to reveal.  She made him aware and if she was pissed at first, she got over it quickly.  Most  people aren't up to speed on the intricacies and the intensity of the Twilight fandom and the level of obsession over her personal life.   Kristen's estimation of Nonsten at 50% is way too high.  I think the lunatic fringe is more like 15 to 20% but they make so much more noise.

What Kristen has been saying all along is still true.  Her personal life being made into news/entertainment is a pet peeve to her  Future interviewers are going to make the mistake of assuming that since the bottle was opened, that they can now ask her to compare/contrast Rob and Kristen to Edward and Bella.  I anticipate some awkward moments in the near future.

There will also be some people not so invested in Twilight who will not react positively to this interview.  Short sighted people think everyone is the same and that we all value a life at the center of attention.

I was shown this tweet last night.

"Just read the Kristen Stewart interview with GQ...I have never heard of a movie star complain so much about being successful".

 I am sure there are much harsher comments than this.  I don't want to see those comments if possible.

There is offering complaints and there is responding to questions.  I think Kristen has handled the fact that she never wanted this kind of fame very well.  She deals with a level of fame far beyond most celebrities.    The critics that say Kristen is ungrateful view the world with narrow glasses and they don't get that not everyone values the same things.  There allot of actors making a very good living who can go out everyday and live a pretty normal existence.

There were no complaints from her in that interview.  She is honest about the reality of the life she lives.   No one knew Twilight would make her one the most famous persons in the world.   She was honest about the adjustments she had to make.  She refuses to "play the game."  To those that can't see the value in her honesty and desire not to conform to the boxes... Well, I feel sorry for these people.   She raves about how much she loves the work she is doing.   She admits to being uncomfortable in interviews.  So what? These are things I love about her.

Kristen might be one the most famous introverts ever.  That personality trait is another reason I am drawn to her.  Most people draw energy from people and love being talked about.  That is why extroverts always want to be around lots of people.    For the introvert, energy is recharged when getting time off the radar with just yourself or very small groups.

Kristen is someone who hasn't gotten her ideal deck of cards. But I didn't hear one complaint in that interview. She has learned to accept things as they are.  It's her explanations, when read by someone who thinks all people want & value the same lifestyle, that the narrow minded will interpret as "complaints.".

I have probably speculated too much on this blog on what is going on in Kristen's head.  Usually after one of those speculations, I'll end up worrying that I could be WAY wrong.   But I alway state that it is just a speculation/opinion.   Then I decided to avoid talking about her personal life, though my opinions are on record.   I know that if I ever spoke to her and asked her if there was anything that bothered her about the blog, she would probably ask me to lay off the personal stuff.

As for what finally was verbally confirmed: it makes mr feel less guilty about a post I did last December in which I speculated heavily on what I think she thinks.  She sorta confirmed those speculations in GQ.  That post was titled "The existence of Nonsten at this point is absurd."  It had the most readers out of all of my posts.  

It's October & Kristen returns soon

There have been several good photos of Kristen since she has been in the UK. Not that this is a departure from when she is in California. She is one the most photographed persons in the world. She also likely holds a record as the person who avoids the most attempts at being photographed.

I've said this so many times as it continues to be true. Kristen seems to get prettier as she gets older. The foundation of a beautiful woman was there several years ago. But she has never placed much importance in just looking good. She was a working teenager who was brought up around brothers and the casual nature of California based parents, who I think had been part of the tail end of the counter culture movement. So she was less feminine when younger. That seems to be changing now. Girls with a tomboyish background usually turn into very easy going women. She seems to have every quality that fellows like myself would want in a companion. She has great domestic qualities & she can stun you with beauty without even trying. I'm sure she has a good bitchy side to her as well. That's necessary to keep a balance. If/when she gets assertive or demanding, I suspect she has enough credits to get her point across.

The pictures from the Snow White set, though while probably not authorized, are doing no harm to that production. The going to war pics will satisfy those that see Kristen as a Girl Empowerment symbol. The dress pics, revealing that perfect skin & some cleavage, will go into her growing collection of Sex symbol images. I keep that collection.

I apologize for not blogging more frequently. Though I am done making excuses. It was necessary for me to get away from the day to day. When it's not Kristen herself making the news, but rather others acting out because Kristen hasn't made news (or the kind of news they want, which usually involves her boyfriend) then I'll pass. I can catch up on everything I need to know in less than half an hour per week.

I appreciate those of you who accept that this blog is going to be random. That is how it started. I tried a weekly update for awhile and that lead to me becoming exposed to the negative side of this. If there was no one else taking on that loud contingent of deranged liars, then I would have to get dirty myself. Fortunately all the BS is challenged by competent bloggers who are well suited to it. So I just enjoy what I like to see.

It seems odd the last movie she was in that we have seen was Eclipse, which wrapped filming over two years ago. Now in the next six months, we get three movies. All of them BFDs. Plus lots of press. It will have been worth the wait.

Kristen has been in the UK at the perfect time of year. Its still warm and the Premier League just started. Charlize Theron is a known Chelsea fan. I also remember seeing an interview with RP when he said who his favorite English football club is. Does anyone remember what club that is? Let me know if you do. So I have been curious if Kristen has attended any matches. I plan to make my first trip over there in the spring. I'll do the typical tourist stuff but the real reason I am going is for the sport.

Take care

Dan



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