Kristen deserves a break from the gossip machine

I wonder how many of you have adopted the same patterns in consuming of celebrity news that I have since a few weeks ago.

If you were bored enough over the past couple years to pay attention to this blog, or if you didn't but were like me, your spending an eighty % less of the time as you did before paying attention to celebrities in general.

I didn't care for them (really anymore than they cared about me) until Kristen came along.   The honesty, the effortless beauty, the shyness, the tomboyish daily wear (but they sure could make her look beyond amazing if she has to wear a dress).  I loved her interviews.  I know if she and I met, and she didn't know I was so cuckoo about her, we would have gotten along great even if you factor in the age difference.  

I never claimed to be a big Rob fan: but I still like him.  Because if she liked him he had to be a good guy.  

I think I wrote this before and deleted it, but my fanship of Kristen (with the full knowledge I would never meet her) helped get me past a long time involvement myself.  If I do accidentally meet her, I will try so hard not to let her know just how crazy I was about her.  Because if she knew she might freak and I wanna keep her talking as long as possible.

I saw her bite that lip in the biology scene.  Then I rented "Into the Wild" and I was hooked.  And I was forever conflicted about flaming the fires of her polarizing fame.  

I love her every bit today as much as i did a few years ago: it's just that I spend about 20% of the time paying attention because their isn't a slimier industry than celeb gossip.  Plus she is working this year and we won't see the fruits of her labor for about 18 months.  

The day I dread, but will get over quickly, is when I learn she is in a new relationship.

Also, give it some time: people that intense about each other always come back around.  I am glad she isn't going to be knocked up and pregnant in the kitchen for a while longer.   Sorry if you disagree, but 23 is too young for that on such a special young lady.

Dear Kristen I hope you read this

Dear Kristen,

Seeing the paparazzi get to you like we saw Friday is heartbreaking.

You have spent 99.9% of the past few years with the  armor that allows you to ignore it.    I never watch the videos because its too much.  I'm told what these scumbags yell at you to provoke reactions.

If I could, I would run interference on these guys as often as I could.  I am pretty sure I would end up in jail.

I am also very sorry that much of your personal life has to be played out in public.  I don't think there has been a celebrity as polarizing as you and I will never get why.   If I had to guess, it's because you don't put off a public persona.  Your only acting when on set.

The biggest factor that affects the crazies is the man you are associated-with.   This isn't his fault and they have harmed him as well.   I I hope you know the number of people that love you is much greater than those that spend their time finding ways to hate you.

There have been child actors who have struggled in adulthood.  So far, it looks like you will succeed, if you want to keep this up.  I hope you keep good mentors that you listen too.

You have been the first and definitely the last "celebrity" I will have concerns for.  I actually started this blog in 2010 because I was blown away by your performances that i had just discovered.   There are many that know more about you than me, so I will leave that #1 fan tag for someone else.  But if its only males being counted, I must be near the top.

I despise all the forms of entertainment media.  Very few have any ethics and we know when they use the word "source" there is a 99.9% chance they made it up.  The only exception I can find to this trend is Entertainment Weekly.  If they don't name a source, its a lie.  If you were not out there making news, I would not pay any attention to any of these entertainment outfits.

  The trait that made me identify with you so much is your introverted ness.   I'm not really talking about shyness and I agree with those that say you are not awkward but rather supremely confident.  But
those moments on TV when you appeared nervous, yet you faced the fear, this made many of us love you.

--those that have met and worked with you rate you as a top class pro and fun to be around.
--you make funny random gestures that are very endearing
--You can act in any genre at a top level
--your intelligence is off the charts.  This comes out in interviews when your words have trouble keeping up with thoughts.
--your beautiful even if you try not to be.
--there is not a celebrity I would put above you when it comes to beauty
-- your love for animals and loyalty to your friends is wonderful.

If there is trouble in your personal life right now, just know that it will pass.   I'll spare you any cliques.

I look forward to watching you pick up an academy award someday.  Or even if you decide to live a lower profile, I'll never forget you.

Yes I wish I had been fortunate as to have been in the same circles as you so I could really know you.  I wish I had been born a couple decades later in the Valley to have had a chance to know you.    I hope you have what you need around you in the way of friends.  It seems that might be the case but I'm in no position to say.   I also hope you are not too proud to seek therapy, regardless if its for individuals or couples.

No matter what happens in your life from here, thank you for the joy you have provided so far.

Best of luck

Dan
Austin, Tx

(Note for the comments.  I moderate it so fuck off haters.  Also, I try to accommodate international  comments most of the time, but I want this entry to be very English.  The translator programs don't work very well)

Last entry for now

There are about 50+ entries on this blog.   I am going to leave it up but I just wanted to put one last one out there if for no other reason than to keep the previous entry from being the last one.

I write this post with the hope that I am wrong.  A few people I trust think this is all BS, but others I trust feel pretty darn certain its accurate.   If the first group is right, I'll gladly eat some crow.

I still have a deep admiration for Kristen and probably always will.  I had pretty much shut the blog down last spring well before the drama of July, but then added a few entries to show support.

I always identified with her quirks and personality traits and her introverted side.  When she gives an interview, you can tell there is so much going on in her brain and its difficult sometimes to make a point when her brain is processing 10 other possibilities that she feels shouldn't be ignored.   That's why interviews are not the easiest thing for her because there is a rarely a simple answer to the questions she is asked.  I think think the girl borders on genius.  

Real Life has been a real bitch for me over the past year.   Most of us probably end up with 10 friends who

we really consider close at one point or another.  Three of them died in the past 12 months.

I don't know what is going on now and will probably never find out.  Any media that would bother covering the personal lives of celebrities are bottom feeders that rely on unnamed sources.  Before the Internet, brick

and mortar newspapers would very rarely use an anonymous source.   And I'll credit the hard news side of media for having tougher standards, but when it comes to sports and celebrities, there is not one single media outlet that has a code of ethics any more.

Kristen never wanted this kind of fame but she learned to adapt to it and might have made a few mistakes along the way.   I thought Robert was good for her as their personalities meshed from what I could see.

I try very hard to ignore celebrity culture and the coverage of it, but that's hard to do when you want to hear about a specific individual.  

If there is any silver lining to this maybe breakup, possibly the scum that chase them everyday will lose interest. But first, if they don't get back together, it will be all about who they see first.   I have always despised this form of entertainment and those that work in it.   Those of you who work for any gossip outlet, or chase people with cameras, you truly are the lowest form of humans we have today.  Entertainment Weekly is probably the one exception.

I feel confident we will see her win an Academy Award someday.   I wish Rob luck too.  These two will always bleed for each other.  It may not be over, but it would be so much easier for them if we the public didn't care.  Neither one of them covet fame.   The stupidest accusations her detractors put out there was that she somehow coveted media & paparazzi attention.  I am sorry, but if you hold that opinion you are very stupid.   She spends most of her time trying to avoid media attention.

My parting shot at the nonstens: are you gleefully happy?  Well good, but you were wrong from day one.

You know this was never PR, but now you will try and claim the contract just ended.

How arrogant to think you have some type of right to influence a person's life.  You are just as low as the paparazzi, with your letter writing campaigns and protests.    You will forever taint Rob's career for the crazy stunts you pulled over the years.   Your hatred of Kristen came down to pure jealously.  You thought she wasn't that much prettier than you and thus not deserving of the guy who wanted her badly.   The truth is Kristen is one of those women who just get more beautiful with age and life experience.  There is not one woman in Hollywood I would pick over her.

I was drawn to her un-voluntarily.  She was the first and will be the last celebrity I pay attention to, and I will miss allot of of because I can't stomach what I have to filter through to learn what is new about her.

I sat back and watched what was willingly made available with the best content being created for the promotion.  

I don't know if this the end of her relationship or not.   I would not be surprised if its back on eventually as the man in question has made some statements about love never being temporary.   But sometimes its not enough to sustain a relationship.  We have seen how intense they felt for each other through legitimate means.  The best stuff came from the promotion.

I'll leave comments open, but its moderated.  If you are a hater, then fuck off because no one will read a word of what you have to say.   If you just want to communicate with me, use the Kontact button and you have the option to send me an anonymous (or non-anonymous) email.  I will still use the twitter account @dano328 but its going to be mixed more and more with Arsenal stuff.

The blog history is there, so if you want to know my thoughts on Kristen, just browse through it.  My opinions have not changed since I first discovered her.   Like Rob, it was her part in "Into the Wild" that put her at the top of my list.

Take Care,

Dan

Open Letter to the media and Universal

To the media & Universal:

In your coverage of Kristen Stewart's personal life over the past few weeks you have sent out a few messages to our society.

Older married men (even with children) will suffer few consequences for having a tryst with young women half their age because you, the media, will focus on the girl.  Oh, you will say she got the focus because she was more famous.

Don't think so.  You were much more concerned with Monica Lewinsky as most of the public was forgiving to Bill Clinton.   I am not saying either party should be treated so badly, but you have a record of destroying the girl and letting the older guy off the hook.

Their is no benefit to admitting guilt and apologizing, as Kristen did.  Those who might deny their part or make excuses haven't been discouraged from doing so.  You seemed to dismiss her admission and have been more focused on reading more into it.  She apologized and said it was a "momentary indiscretion" yet you have been trying to prove (without success) that there  was a longer history.  

You had to notice how uncomfortable Kristen looked in those pictures.   But you haven't followed up on this because that leads to ideas and thoughts that don't sell as many magazines and gain as much web traffic.

Rupert Sanders involvement just doesn't interest you, so you keep focusing on the easy target who has been reluctant to defend herself.  She obviously feels terrible about what she did.  And she apologized.  But you just smelled blood and attacked like a pack of sharks.

You have sent a very poor message with your coverage.  Guys like me who might be contemplating such behavior know we will get off with a slap on the wrist at most.  

And Universal Pictures: Are you seriously contemplating giving Sanders additional work while discontinuing with the star who gave that professional engagement a chance to succeed?  If this is your move, rest assured you don't deserve the rare talent Kristen brings.  And I for one will not consume any product you produce in the future.

Have I missed anything?

I've had a few requests to do an update here.  One reason I haven't is 99% of the so called "news" is fabrication.

Please correct me if I am wrong in the comments, but this is all we know to be true.

(1)pictures come out

(2)Kristen's public apology to Rob seemed raw emotion

(3)Rob goes on promo.  Many talking heads tried to get him to comment.

He didn't bite.  He even rejected Jon Stewart's "kick her to the curb" with a response "is this an impersonation of yourself?" 

One comment from Cronenberg that stood out to me was "people think they know what is going on, but they don't"

(4)Conflicting reports of what Universal is doing with Swath part #2

(5)Kristen chose not to do Cali

(6)sad news about Kristen's parents

Did I miss anything?

There have been endless stories with unnamed sources.  I can't believe a single one of these, even if I like what the story says.  Even People Mag will do this unnamed source stuff to a lesser degree.  What is more surprising is the standard of journalism in the UK.  Brick and mortar news outlets like the Daily Mail are just as bad as many "gossip" outlets with their use of unnamed sources.  I have experienced this poor standard of journalism in the UK all summer when following their sports pages.   They speculate and say things like "it is believed."  This week, an 18 year old kid with 45,000 twitter followers, admitted he made up numerous reports about transfers in the English Premier League.  The Daily Mail, The Mirror and others took his bs tweets and published stories on them.

This week he admits that he made it all up.   When this is happening with sport, their celebrity news certainly has no credibility.    US based newspapers seem to have a higher standard, so you see less about Kristen and Rob, because they and their real friends are not talking.

My take on this "scandal" has changed a little.  Even if Kristen did have an affair, she should not be getting near the negative coverage she has gotten.  It's unprecedented in my memory of the press bashing a 22 year old woman.

If this did happen, then she is worthy of forgiveness.   But I don't think what has been reported is the whole truth of what happened.  And I am not saying anyone is entitled to know the truth.  We aren't.  But when I look at those pictures, besides wanting to vomit, I see a girl who looks very uncomfortable and had major misgivings about being there.    I don't think she knew what was going to happen when she met Rupert that day.   I think she admired and respected him in the same manner that many college age girls view their favorite professor.   But if an affair was in progress, she would not have conducted it like that.  It would have been too easy to meet somewhere private.

So I think she was taken by surprise.    She didn't kick him out of he car.  I don't think she had any reference for this type of experience.  For as wise beyond her years Kristen often seems, she also lived a very sheltered life, IMO.  She didn't realize Rupert's intent, IMO.

So what happens now: I think they want this story to go away.  Commenting on it, even to defend herself, gives the story a boost and keeps it in the papers.

Kristen will go on to have a great career.  This setback won't last much longer.

As far as her relationship, my hunch is that she and Rob are not over with.  There may be a long break, but for all we truly know, they might already be in couples therapy.   We won't know for sure until all the BD2 cash has been counted.     If I was Rob, and I knew that Kristen wanted to fix whatever was broken, then I certainly wouldn't give up on her.

As Kristen's fan, I won't give up her no matter what.  I am not a fan of celebs in general, but I will always be drawn to her.

Mistakes don't erase everything

I've made several attempts on this blog to "not discuss her personal life" because I felt the guilt long ago.  Knowing that they didn't want to be tabloid fodder I didn't want to "feed the beast." For this reason, and the fact that my interest in English football had really grown into a passion, this blog was on its dying embers.  I was ok with this, because there is only so many ways for me to say how awesome Kristen is.   Plus, the news was always good.   Talented bloggers, like KJ, could spread the right message.  There was not much for me to contribute, IMO I felt like my interest in Kristen was in this department over there, and they are doing great over there, so I'll move on to other interests.  Now the Kristen department is full of sadness and I feel it right along with many of you.   How many scandals like this have you seen over the years without giving it a second thought? Kristen, and by extension Robert, were the first celebs many of us had EVER cared about. Before Tuesday, the time I spent reading about Kristen  had gone down to 15-30 minutes a week.   My mind was on the upcoming Barclay's Premiere League and all the transfer news.   I glanced at the positive Kristen news and moved on.  The past couple of days, @poptrashmoviee has expressed a very valid point that all the good news was due to her being pushed to max to become "the highest paid actress in Hollywood".   More down time was probably needed and might have prevented his.   There is also opinion out there that the facts don't add up.  It doesn't despite the pictures.  If everything that meets the eye is true, then I feel it was all about self-destruction.  This is a psyche issue that can be healed. I have a desire to know those involved are progressing into healing.  I know this will take time.     I wish i could forget about all of this.   Its best to ignore as much media on this as possible.   So little out there is reliable.   What Kristen least wanted to happen is happening.  The money being made on her private life is at an all time high.   Kristen is still a very good person. This mistake doesn't undo all thats good about her.  I think Rob knows this, too.  She is still the one I wouldn't want to get away.   But maybe she needs to be alone to work on herself.   I am not qualified to say what's best.  Her comments, during SWATH promo, about her life being boring and wishing for some conflict,  haunt me.   Therapy is needed, with or without Rob. Me saying that isn't exactly "minding my own business."  Sorry.   That guilt will probably stop me from doing more blogging on this. Like many of you, I  want everyone involved to stop hurting.   I  care about that girl.  And him.  This is true despite the fact I don't know them. Please don't take this next comment seriously, because its NOT.  Its intended to make me (and maybe you) smile.  Rob has a movie coming up where he goes to Iraq, right?  Kristen should cancel Cali, go with him and wear a burka (;

Humans make mistakes. Even good ones.

Shock & Sadness are my immediate reactions.   There was brief hope this was a hoax.      She is human.  Regardless of what happens going forward, at one time these two had a very special relationship which appeared above the normal trappings of Hollywood.    We will probably never know what changed.  Not saying they are over.   I hope they aren't. I will always be a fan.   I still think she is very unique.  However, this incident does take her off the pedestal of being completely different from the rest of Hollywood.   She can learn and grow from this "common" mistake. Guys can easily fall in love with her, IMO.   Why she was vulnerable to this bloke i'll never understand.   His age isn't the issue but his wife & kids are.  I remember from Swath promo that Kristen indicated her life was too easy.  That she almost looked forward to something bad to happen to bring some conflict into that perfect life. I do feel bad for Rob and that director's wife.  But I have no hate for anyone. I've been through this from Rob's perspective & I wanted to salvage it.  But the woman I was with doesn't have near the integrity that Kristen still has (though her integrity is weakened, the heartfelt admission did show some character, IMO). If Rob and Kristen are too be salvaged, it will take sacrifices from them both on their careers.   It would take time to rebuild trust.   And being miles apart is not good if rebuilding trust is the priority.   Its probably unrealistic for them to cancel their projects and work on fixing what was broken.  Maybe they take a break and come back to each other after awhile.  I don't know.  Even if they split they will still love each other.  There are old quotes from Rob along these lines. There is no point in pretending the same relationship can exist.  Maybe something new can start, if the love is still genuine, but its up to them. Robert Ebert's tweet was about the only "comforting" item I saw.   He pointed out an article about Kristen's apology in the Atlantic, http://t.co/OdY5X0Q3, and stated it makes him respect her more.  Damage control protocol surely would have called for something other than an immediate, heartfelt apology.  She seemed to be grieving the trust she violated. She broke his heart and her own.   Time will tell, but as of now I think Rob might get past this and choose not to give up on her.  I don't want to raise false hopes, but if you consider this happens to couples and they survive it.   Kristen didn't get to live four years in the relative obscurity of college to make mistakes.  Movie sets were her college and what his name the older professor.    What she did is done by 22 year olds with boyfriends.   Her offense is a considerable one.   But should her fame make her offense so much worse than the people who can get away with this? Clique of the moment (its fits): Time heals all wounds.